Stop letting triggers block you
from the connection you both
crave & deserve
A 70-minute 2:1 Trigger-Dynamic Assessment with Aaron
Uncover the hidden pattern driving conflict —
and begin reconnecting as a team again.
For couples who still care and love one another — yet at times feel like their partner is the enemy.
Most couples believe they have a communication problem.
And in some ways, they probably do.
But even if they had some communication tools,
it wouldn’t actually create the change they desire.
Because more importantly they have an invisible relationship pattern they can't yet see.
And it’s the pattern that’s the enemy,
it’s the pattern that needs to change (not your partner).
If you’ve been stuck in patterns of defensiveness or being shut down
then you’ve probably tried talking it out
But you still go in circles, and nothing changes
(that’s why you think it’s a communication issue).
Or maybe you try to avoid conflict altogether just to keep the peace
but resentments linger under the surface.
Slowly but surely,
you hide more and more of yourselfand your true feelings,
even though you desperately want to open, be heard,
seen and understood.
You may even now be wondering if you were ever
really compatible in the first place?
Questioning whether you’ve really got what it takes to
stay together long-term.
What you haven’t yet seen is that
you've both been caught in a pattern
neither of you were ever taught how to see.
This session is the fastest way to uncover that pattern, and begin changing it.
Because when both see it clearly,
you can finally get on the same page and say “this is what has to change and we’re in this together”
And what happens when nothing (really) changes?
Sometimes the truth hurts, but it does set us free,
And the truth is: Every unresolved conflict teaches your nervous systems that
it's safer to disconnect and distance rather than repair.
Over time, resentment starts to feel normal.
Conversations get shorter.
Affection drops and irritation heightens.
And even though you still love him/her,
you stop bringing your whole self to the relationship because
it feels safer to self-protect
than be completely open & transparent.
So let us be completely transparent with you now:
If you endure another six months of
hoping resentments will just disappear;
Another six months
avoiding the conversations that actually matter.
Another six months of escalating frustration
because nothing is actually resolved
but just brushed under the rug.
Then you won’t just be in the same place as now,
It will be worse.
And yes conflict is hard,
but it gets harder the longer it goes on,
And those small resentments, the misunderstandings,
the disappointments build over time,
leading the unshakable bond you once shared
to slowly but surely erode.
It isn't too late.
But the pattern won't interrupt itself.
The Trigger-Dynamic Assessment
This isn't counselling, and it isn't a sales pitch.
It's a structured relationship & trigger-dynamic assessment
— the same first step every couple takes before entering any of our deeper work,
whether that's a program, therapeutic coaching, or a retreat.
During your session, you'll discover:
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Your stance — the protective position you default to under stress
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Your partner's stance — and why it makes perfect sense, even when it doesn't feel that way
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The dance — the pattern the two of you fall into that keeps pulling you apart
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Exactly how to interrupt it — so the same fight stops repeating
You'll leave no longer walking on eggshells.
You'll finally understand each other's pain instead of defending your own.
The Trigger-Dynamic Assessment Process
In 70-minutes, you'll understand your dynamic in a way that creates real relief.
And from relief, a breakthrough becomes possible.
“We finally understand each other again.
The clarity we got from that first call created a huge shift in how connect in simple & kind ways.”
Break-Through Conflict & Disconnect Client
Why it Works
Our process is rooted in Relational Life Therapy
— a framework created by world-leading therapist Terry Real.
It reveals the protection strategies and behaviours that quietly keep love at a distance.
Many couples come to us saying, "We've already tried therapy."
Often what's been missing isn't effort — it's clarity about the dynamic itself.
When you can see the dance clearly, you stop looping in the same arguments.
You stop blaming and start taking more accountability and responsibility.
You don't need to agree on everything.
You simply need to stop feeling like you're on opposite teams.
This session helps you remember how to become allies again.
“It was confronting, but freeing.
We finally saw the real issue; & it wasn’t what we thought.”
Break-Through Conflict & Disconnect Client
This session is not for everyone.
It's not for those who want to continue blaming their partner without taking accountability for their part.
It’s also not going to help if you’re unwilling to
take a step-back and see your relationship from a new perspective.
If one or both of you is unwilling to
explore your own contribution to the dynamic,
we suggest you start with our Awakened Intimacy podcast until you feel more ready to dive in.
This session IS for couples who are:
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Willing to look at their own part in the pattern
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Open to honest reflection and gentle challenge
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Ready to move from blame into understanding
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Would rather be connected than 'right'
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Are ready to restore hope for their relationship & feel like a team once again
And if you feel nervous about what might come up, rest assured, that's completely nervous,
and actually a good sign that you're ready for something new.
Your Guide:
Aaron Keith Christos
Aaron is a certified Relational Life Therapist and Intimacy Coach.
He blends psychology, nervous system science, and embodiment practices to help couples break old patterns, rebuild safety, and reconnect with steadiness and depth.
It's through personally seeing the radical intimacy forged with his wife Greer through getting to the root of their trigger dynamic that Aaron became devoted to helping couples find their way back to each other, closer than ever, before it was too late.
Drawing on his lived experience of marriage, fatherhood, step-parenting, and men's work, Aaron guides couples beyond blame and into relational maturity, emotional presence, and genuine intimacy.
“We were both pretty surprised to see the
blindspots that neither of us were aware of.
Our session with Aaron left us both feeling really good,
full of clarity and a solid way to move forward. Thank you.”
Break-Through Conflict & Disconnect