Intimacy Coach: How Our Childhood Adaptations Block True Connection.

So many of us are walking through life wearing masks. We play roles — the caretaker, the achiever, the peacekeeper — without even realising it.

These identities were formed early in life, when we learned how to belong, how to get love, and how to stay safe. They helped us survive our family systems and fit into the world around us.

But what once kept us safe… now keeps us separate.

In adult relationships, these same protective patterns often get in the way of the closeness we crave. When we relate through our masks, our partner never gets to meet the real us — only the version we’ve learned to perform.

Awakening in relationship means starting to notice who is showing up in each moment. Is it the child trying to please, or the adult capable of presence and truth?

The more awareness we bring to these parts, the more freedom and connection become possible. Love can finally meet us — not as a role, but as our real selves.

Listen to the Full Conversation:

As Relationship Therapists and Intimacy Coaches, We dive deeper into this in Episode 1 of the Awakened Intimacy Podcast  — “What It Really Means to Awaken in Relationship.”

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